Sometimes this time of year is a good time for reflection. A time to take stock of where we are. It could be any time we choose but I suppose because the new year is about to start, it is a reminder that one year is about to come to completion.

It doesn't matter whether you feel you have achieved a lot this year or not. What is more important is to think about whether the life you are leading is making you happy, making you feel satisfied. Depression often comes when our soul's needs are not being met.

In fact a lot of my clients, come to see me, not because they have panic attacks, depression or weight problems but more because these phenomena are an expression of the void they feel inside and the nagging that their lives could be better.

So I'd like to invite you all to take a quiet moment to think about where you are, to appreciate the things you have (relationships, job, home, etc) and to reflect on what is it you would like different. Just dream big. And sit quietly imagining that you are there. Take as long as you want to enjoy that life that really fits you at soul level. It could be that there is a childhood dream of being a nurse that you never realised because you didn't have the money for the studies or your parents thought you should be something else. Don't disregard these dreams, they nourish your soul. And think about little steps you could take in the new year to make these dreams happen.

Two years ago, I joined a slimming club. I never thought I would and felt pretty shameful about it, but now nearly two stones lighter, I am so glad I knocked on the door. I feel more beautiful, more confident, more loving of myself. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. It empowered me. And helped me manage a problem that I had since my early days around food as comfort.

And to finish this email I want to wish you blessings and abundance in this festive season. I know some people don't like the Christmas season because they feel it's fake. If we go back to our pagan roots, it is the celebration of candles, lights, and warm food in the middle of the winter and at the Winter Solstice (tomorrow) time. So happy celebration of this season.

With love and light

We met on the internet... thanks to a friend of mine who encouraged me to do so.

I would be the last person to sign up to a dating agency but being a single mum with two young children and in a foreign country, my options weren't very good and Christmas parties are not really the right place to meet someone who wants to commit.

It was destiny. It always is. He sent me a pretty boring email literally a few minutes before I closed my account with the dating agency having decided it wasn't my scene. And I thought, why not? We talked on the phone for three weeks, getting closer and closer at soul level and we met... we were so nervous.

That was seven years ago. We now have a beautiful son called Nicholas. But more interestingly, together we have six children: he has three from his first marriage, I have two from my first marriage and now we have little one who is three years old. One nice big family.